Intuition and Intellect

[originally published May 18, 2009]

A message that has been coming up a lot lately, both for my clients and for me, is that about aligning your energy and working on it the same way you work on the practical, logical, tangible things. Think of the energetic or vibrational wonder that happens to you when you work in your garden. You’re physically and practically doing something, taking action, to get your garden to grow. But at the same time, you’re thinking about and feeling the goodness of connection to the earth, you’re putting your energy and thought into your garden.

Your life is like that. If you don’t like your job, then you are only doing the logical part. If you’re unhappy in a relationship and you do things to help it like going to counseling, having conversations, or setting up date nights, that is only the logical part. Work on the energy part.

Look at it this way–you were given both intellect and intuition. When you use them both, you are at your best.

Flying without a Plane – or a Body

[originally published July 29, 2008]

flyingI have read only a couple of things about astral projection, also known as astral travel, out-of-body experiences, and transcendental meditation. What I have read did not satisfy me with regard to my personal experiences. Thus, I want to share with you those experiences, in the hopes that you will find it helpful.

Some people believe that everyone’s soul travels out of his/her body during sleep. I disagree, mostly because I know the difference between astral travel and dreaming. Someone once told me that if you dream you are flying, your soul has left your body. That may actually be possible, but again, it is not my experience with being out of my physical body.

When I was in my early teens, I experienced my first out-of-body travel. I was lying on the couch, resting with my eyes closed but not asleep. Suddenly, I was also across the room, next to the fireplace. I was aware of both my physical body and my consciousness, even though they were separate. Then my soul went back to my body and was lying back down. In the process, as my soul-head was still above my physical head, I opened my physical eyes. And I could see from both perspectives! It was a very odd sensation and I admit I was not altogether happy about it.

I knew this was not something to discuss with others. How? Well, maybe you’ve read some of my stuff about how I finally gave in to a disbelief in magic. I was trying to be a “mere mortal” at that point, so I didn’t accept magical things anymore. Or I tried not to. This one was pretty overwhelming. I had no idea until I was about 40 that these spontaneous out-of-body experiences might have indicated that I was psychically and spiritually gifted.

They continued to happen periodically throughout my teens. The second experience happened while I was sleeping at night. I left my body and shot down through the floor into the living room below. Another odd feeling that left me wondering what was going on. I didn’t encounter anyone else in the non-physical and didn’t want to ask anyone about it in the physical.

Eventually, I learned to have a little bit of control over this process. I couldn’t make it happen, but I could sometimes guide it if it did. Once, I went to see the boy I liked in high school. I simply concentrated on his name-like, “I want to go see X”-and there I was in his bedroom. He was asleep and I could see exactly where the furniture was and the position he slept in. The next day, I asked him how he slept. He showed me and it matched what I had seen with my soul-eyes.

Years later, I focused on someone in particular again. This was on a Sunday afternoon. I sensed vast amounts of water under me, for the brief moment I was “traveling”. Then I was in front of my friend. He was at a resort, a large hotel on a beach. The hotel was distinctive, with two separate buildings that curved toward the ocean. There were terraces from the hotel going down to the beach. I tried to talk to my friend, asking, “Can you see me? Can you hear me?” I thought my friend answered, “Almost.”

I’ll interject here that a disembodied soul in this physical dimension “feels” a little funny. There aren’t really eyes to see, ears to hear, skin to feel. But you “sense” things in a different way. So when I say that I saw or said something, think of it as being rather ghostly, non-physical, or angelic.

A few days later, I talked to the friend I had “visited” for the first time in a while. I asked what he had been up to and he said he just got back from Grand Cayman. I got excited about the prospect that I could prove I had been there in spirit! It just so happened that my next-door neighbor at the time had lived in Grand Cayman for a while. I described the hotel to her and asked her if she recognized it. She said, “Oh, yes, that’s the _____ Hotel in Grand Cayman. I am very familiar with it.”

Still, I didn’t tell anyone what had actually happened, but I had proved to myself that I really had done what I thought I had done!

Many years later, when I began teaching spirituality seminars, I began to talk openly about these experiences. At the first seminar, a woman in the audience raised her hand and said, “I do that too.” Then a young man in the back gingerly raised his hand. “I am so glad to know what that is,” he confessed with relief. “I didn’t know what was happening and I was scared.”

I explained to him three very important things: 1) It’s only your soul going around without your body, 2) nothing in the non-physical can hurt you in the physical, and 3) you have more control over it than you think you do.

I have finally learned about this control factor. If I start leaving my body, I can say, “I want to go to _____” and I will go to that place or that person, no matter where it or he or she is. I can also decide not to go at all. I have occasionally encountered other spirit-seeming entities who look like people but seem to be in the non-physical as I am. I cannot easily communicate with them, though, so I can’t say for sure. Thought is usually more effective than trying to speak words, but I still haven’t achieved communication with either physical or non-physical beings when I am astral traveling.

Sometimes, the experiences will meld with dream-like situations, which I can mostly control by choice, deciding what I want to have happen. If there is ever anything that seems frightening-and that doesn’t really happen to me anymore-I have learned that these things are manifestations of my own fear. This is key in your waking physical life, as well: If you sense something that frightens you, speak to it in love. Demons, gargoyles, and other scary things are only your fear appearing to you, reflecting back at you. Use words or thoughts of love, such as “I love you,” “I love,” “God loves you,” or “There is only love here.” And you will banish your demons.

Talk of Recession Harmful to Economy

[originally published May 30, 2008] —>  NOTICE THIS ORIGINAL DATE!  I’VE BEEN TALKING ABOUT THIS FOR A WHILE!  (And this was BEFORE the crash in October, 2008.)

“This has GOT to stop!” Thus spake my beloved grandmother on the occasion of her 80th birthday, as she craned her imperious, permanent-waved head toward the car’s power window to criticize my father. Several members of the family were packed into two cars and had discovered yet a third Houston restaurant to be closed.

Grandmother’s words were never more pertinent than now:  This talk of recession has got to stop!

Every headline reeks of havoc, recession, human-rights violations, oppression, fatigue, war, and Arma-crazy-geddon. I’m telling you, I’ve had it.  This has got to stop!

I look around me and everywhere I see a nation of big consumers. Sure, we gripe about the high price of gas, but we keep buying it. We keep driving wherever we want to or have to go. As a nation, we give generously to charitable causes at home and abroad. We keep buying more iPhones® and Wiis® and the other latest gadgets. We have so much disposable income, we now lag only behind Brazil in per capita elective plastic surgeries. And we have so much good food that we continue to be the fattest people on the planet.

Despite the record federal debt, we remain fabulously wealthy, compared with any time in history and any nation thus far. And yet, all we see are headlines and news stories reporting that the Dow dipped again or the NASDAQ saw its worst day since two-thousand-whatever or the economy is headed for heck in a handbasket, if it hasn’t already arrived.  A cautiously optimistic headline like, “Retailers rejoice over a strong May” gets buried like it’s decomposing.

Stop it already!  The thoughts and ideas that we entertain the most are the ones that continue to grow.  In other words, talk of a good economy encourages more of that good thing.  Likewise, endless talk of recession creates recession. Think about it. The last time the economy was great, it just kept getting greater. Remember the famous quote from the first Clinton campaign in ’92, “It’s the economy, stupid”? Well, that was no accident. The economy seemed to take on a fanciful life of its own when everyone noticed how great it was.

When was the last time you saw a good headline about the economy? I have actually seen a few, but they seem to be snatched off the internet headlines like dry laundry off the line, to be replaced with dirty laundry about–what else? Recession.

If you need help, here’s a great story to hang your hat on: Very recently, a couple of my friends decided they wanted to move to another neighborhood. They listed their house with a Realtor® and held an open house on a Saturday. That day, there were 11 showings of the house. By the following Monday evening, they had six-count ’em, six-offers on their house. The best one was considerably higher than the asking price.

2011 update:  My sister recently sold her house similarly quickly–listed on Wednesday, open house Saturday, three serious offers on Monday, two of whom got into a little bidding war, and my sister and her husband reaped more than their asking price!

This is not an isolated incident, and yet we hear nothing about it in the news. We must find those happy stories and hang onto them with all our might! Believe me, our might is better spent that way than on sorrier tales.

I’m not asking you to give up all bad news. And I’m certainly not suggesting that you live in a dreamy bubble, ignoring war or famine or people who need your care. All I am saying is, please stop writing and reading and listening to the news stories that say only bad and negative things every blessed day. And when you find a good story, for all our sakes, milk it for all it’s worth!

Remember, as Grandmother said, “This has GOT to stop!”

Why Did I Attract THIS?

[originally published October 19, 2007–and still completely relevant]

WHY DID I ATTRACT THIS…

That’s the question we all need to ask all the time.

Many people have seen “The Secret” (and if you haven’t seen it, please go to http://www.thesecret.tv/ and watch it) and have been studying the Law of Attraction, so they’re starting to be conversant in some of those principles.

In my practice as a psychic medium and medical intuitive, I am starting to notice that my clients don’t get the whole picture of just what this attraction thing is.

Simply stated, the Law of Attraction is a law of physics that applies to your life in that what you put your attention on, you attract to you. Most people look at this law like “How can I attract more money/love/etc.?”

And that is great. That is the best use of the Law of Attraction and if you are consistently attracting things, people, relationships, and experiences that please you, I congratulate you! That is fantastic!

Unfortunately, that is not the case for about 98% of us out there. Most of us continue to attract at least a few things that we’re not too crazy about and here’s the kicker: nobody knows they’re doing it.

Just this past week, I have talked to three clients who were actually offended when I suggested that they had attracted experiences into their life that they didn’t like. “Why would I attract THAT?” they demanded. “I don’t want THAT, it’s BAD.”

Right, I get that. I understand that you don’t consciously want car trouble, health problems, bad grades, bad breath, or whatever. Who would?

And that’s exactly why you need to ask, “Why did I attract THIS?” Anything that gets your attention for better or worse, ask the question.

Here’s a dire example. Many people know that my husband died several years ago and left me with two small children to raise and very little life insurance. Why did I attract THAT?

Why indeed. I may never know all the reasons, but I know there are some, probably many, and some of them I do understand. And with some of those larger things (and maybe the small things too), your spirit got together with other spirits to plan some of the important events you wanted in your life as a human.

This is why we sometimes have trouble understanding—we don’t communicate with our own spirits very well. I work to bridge that gap for my clients, helping them communicate with Spirit and understand why they’re here—even when they’re attracting things they don’t like.

Food for thought, eh?

The Oklahoma City Bombing

[originally published November 6, 2007]

It took me a long time to recognize my abilities as a psychic/mystic/etc., so I sometimes find myself waking up a long-dormant memory to add to my little book of stories. For example, it was only after I started recognizing visits from spirits during my readings that I remembered the feeling I had as a child, that someone—or several someones—were always present. My mother said, “You have such a vivid imagination! What a wonderful quality!” Bless her heart.

Here is the memory that arose today [11/6/2007] . We all remember the Oklahoma City bombing on April 19, 1995. I didn’t have to look up the date, because it was precisely one week before my husband’s death, so I always remember that anniversary. And on that day, at that exact time, I was in the dentist’s chair, being prepped for a filling. Something was going wrong and my gums would not become numb. Carla, my beloved dentist-friend, waited patiently for the anesthetic to take effect.

Suddenly, I went into panic mode. Flat on my back, I swore to Carla that I was going to pass out. “No, that’s not possible,” Carla soothed. “You’re lying down. You can’t faint.” But something was terribly wrong. Tears filled my eyes as I grasped Carla’s hand. “Something’s wrong,” I whispered through still-sensitive lips.

In a few minutes, I was able to calm down and the anesthetic took effect. The filling was created without further incident. Carla promised never to work on me without nitrous again. I don’t know if that was for her sake or mine!

Shortly after I left the dentist’s office, I learned of the bombing of the Alfred P. Murrah Building that killed 168 and left hundreds injured. At some point in the intervening years, it did occur to me that I had some sort of Universal sensation as all those lives ended in terror.

I’m Manifesting Money for You

I’m happy to address a topic that has been prominent in my experience lately.  That is, how people feel about spending money on themselves.

I have had many clients who are eager to spend their money on my services, and then I have had one or two who say, “I can’t afford that right now.”  And you can say that–don’t get me wrong; I am not saying that you can’t say that, but you might not WANT to say that anymore.

It occurred to me that any time my client doesn’t want to spend money on my services, not only is she denying herself something for some reason (we’ll get to that in a minute), but also I am attracting someone who says, “Not right now” to me.  And that means that some small part of me is saying, “I’m not worthy of receiving that.”

Very often, when we say we can’t afford it, we are feeling a pinch in some way.  And I promise you, it always comes down to whether you feel worthy.  If you find yourself thinking something like, “There’s no way I can get any more money than I currently have.  My company is not giving any raises right now, and I’ll just be lucky not to get laid off.”  Or “my business is not going to get any more customers because the economy is bad right now.  I’ll be lucky not to have to close my doors”–then you need a THINK ADJUSTMENT.

You know how very powerful your thoughts are.  When you think, “There’s no way,” YOU’RE RIGHT!  But when you think, “I don’t know the way yet, but I know there is one,” YOU’RE ALSO RIGHT!

I just decided today to start attracting money to YOU on your behalf.  Yes, I can do that.  (You can too.)  I want to attract a lot of money to you, along with the feeling of worthiness, so that you can spend your money on all that you like and enjoy.

And I want to ask you to do your part.  Be open to all possibilities.  Allow the idea of solutions and methods existing that you cannot possibly imagine.

“There are more things in Heaven and Earth, Horatio, than are dreamt of in your philosophy.” 

That Shakespeare was a man with a clue.

So remind yourself that you are worthy (even if you don’t feel it) of love, joy, and abundance.  Imagine opening your mind and spirit to knew and different ideas.  Ask for the opportunity, desire, motivation, and/or idea to DO whatever will bring you what you love and enjoy.

And I will be over here, attracting money and abundance to you

Believe, believe, believe

I’ve been talking to you a lot about beliefs lately.  I’ve also been thinking about them myself.  A lot.  Can’t seem to stop.  But this is a good thing–it helps me to develop the answers that you need to your questions about… well, everything!

If you read the most recent post (about the OK Corral; see the previous post), it was about beliefs.  Essentially, it said that you live (or die) by what you believe.

I’ve been reading and listening to a lot of useful stuff about wealth and creating success and so forth, among them

The Attractor Factor by Dr. Joe Vitale

Money and the Law of Attraction by Esther and Jerry Hicks (and Abraham)

The Art of Success (audio series) by David Neagle

And all of these discuss beliefs.  Breaking down old beliefs, beliefs that will move you forward, etc.  But here’s what happened when I asked my own angels for a little favor.  I asked them to reveal to me the belief or beliefs that were holding me back from manifesting all that I love and enjoy.

You won’t believe their answer.

Are you ready?

“The only belief that holds you back is the belief that beliefs can hold you back.”

I laughed.  And then I got to thinking about it.  The teachers are not wrong when they say your limiting beliefs hold you back.  But if you didn’t believe them, they would be.

I don’t know about you, but I think I need to take a couple of Tylenol.  Or a stiff drink.

Now, think about it, and see what it means to you.  And until next time, y’all be good!

The Ghost of the Union Captain

yankeeWelcome to my ghost story.  For a medium, I don’t have a lot of experience with earth-bound spirits or ghosts.  Most of my conversations with spirits are with those on the Other Side.  But each time I encounter a ghost, I learn a little more about how they operate.  This story is about the first time I met one.  (That I am aware of…)

I was touring a real Southern plantation in Louisiana a few years ago.  It had been developed in the late 1700s, and had been owned by the same family through all those generations until shortly before I went to tour it.  In the year or so before, the family had donated the remaining assets to the National Parks Department, so our tour guide was a park ranger.

We toured most of the buildings on the property, and wound up in the main house.  It wasn’t all that big, for what you would think of a major plantation, one that was a working farm for over 200 years, complete with its own store, blacksmith, etc.  The house had been updated with electricity and running water, of course, because it was occupied by family members continuously.  And the kitchen had been “decorated”, to use the term loosely, in a 1970s style.  Most of the furniture had been removed while the Parks Department restored the house.

The ranger guided us into a side room and told us about the use of that room.  It had three doors, two interior and one exterior.  I was standing near a wall between the two interior doors, when I felt someone walk up behind me, over my left shoulder.  You know how it feels when someone walks up behind you, right?  You can feel an energy there.

I glanced over my shoulder.  There were about 20 people on the tour, so I just glanced to see who it was.  There was no one there.  Someone came through the door about 12 feet behind me, and I turned back to the ranger.  But I still felt someone there, so I looked again.  Still no one.

So I asked in my mind, “Hello, who’s there?”  And I immediately got an image of an old photograph.  It featured a Captain from the Union Army of the Civil War.  And I knew that’s who was standing behind me.  But he was a Yankee…?

I asked him to tell me more, and he said he was actually a gentleman, not a career military man, and he was doing his duty in the war.  He indicated that he returned to this plantation after the war and lived out his life there.  I assumed, although I don’t think he told me this, that he returned for a woman and probably married her.

The tour continued, and we found ourselves in the main living room.  A man in the tour group spoke up and said he was related to the family that owned the plantation.  He said his grandmother had grown up in this very house and had been married in this very living room.

He told us that, during the Civil War, the Yankees burned the plantation down the road, but they occupied this house and spared the property.  I asked, “So there were Yankees in the house?”  And he said, yes.

That part was pretty cool, but I was still kind of wondering what this meant, and if I really had a ghost with me or… was this an encounter with a spirit who has crossed over?  I talk to those energies often, but this one came with that presence over my left shoulder.

As the ranger led us out of the house and onto the porch, I noticed that the energy left me, just as I crossed the threshold, as if the ghost couldn’t cross it.  Later, I talked to someone with a lot of experience with ghosts and he said that was definitely a ghost and his behavior was typical.

Well, how about that?

Create, Believe, Create, Believe

Oy!  It can be confusing sometimes, just living in this human life, day after day.  And you may have noticed that I have been talking about beliefs lately…  See this post and/or this one.

And if you listened in on the little audio about wealth I did recently, you may have heard me talking about beliefs there too.  In meditation, my angels revealed this to me:

You create what you believe, and you believe what you create.

Simple?  Yes.  Easy?  No way.

Let’s take a closer look at this.  You know that you are creating all the time, right?  That everything in your life, every feeling, every person and relationship, every material thing, every experience–you’ve created and attracted and allowed all of it.  Right?  Okay.

And you further know that you can change everything in your life by choosing to change it and thinking about it.  (For more info on Law of Attraction, refer to www.Abraham-Hicks.com and get a BEST Psychic Reading with me.)

So what this deal is saying is that (a) you create what you believe–okay, so you’re sitting there, wallowing in beliefs like “I’m not good enough” or “I can’t make more money” or “I’m fat” or whatever negative thing you’re thinking.  And you create that.  You have created that thing you don’t like and don’t want.

However, before you do anything else, you automatically accept what you see and experience as reality.  So (b) you believe what you create.  Looking at what you now have, you say, “This is real, this is reality, this is what I have.  I believe it.”

And then you create what you believe.

Yeah, a vicious cycle indeed.

What can you do about it?  Try not believing what you think is real.  Try not believing at all.  Try believing something that you can’t see or feel right now.

And when you’ve got it licked, let me know!

Diana’s Dad Pays Me a Visit

Book Portraits 006This is one of the stories that will be featured in the new edition of Dead On: Spirited Stories from a Medium’s Diary.  So how about that?  You’re getting a sneak peak.  Of course, you can feel free to grab the original now, by clicking on the link above.  Here’s my little tale:

I presented a Suzi-Q & A LIVE psychic event in Dallas, and was very pleased that a lifelong friend of mine could attend.  Diana and I have known each other since childhood, when we both took tap and ballet at Miss Beverly’s dance studio.  I was also delighted when she agreed to act as hostess at my event.  The hostess is sort of like an assistant, checks people in, takes pictures, answers questions afterward, etc.

Even though I knew Diana’s father had passed away a couple of years before this event, I kind of forgot that he might show up.  Diana was going through some tough personal stuff, so I was reading for her based on that, and all of a sudden, there’s her dad!  Now, I knew her parents a bit, of course, and they were just wonderful, nice people, real salt-of-the-earth types, but I hadn’t really hung out at their house since high school.  And–ahem–that’s been two (or three) decades.

Dad had a few things to say about the family, and I could feel that this was a particularly close-knit family, not really a lot of dysfunction between them, and I told Diana that, and reminded her how fortunate she was, which she acknowledged.  Then Dad had a message:  Tell your sister that I’m with her too.  I didn’t know what that meant, but Diana said, “We’ve all seen him since he passed, except for my sister.”  So that was pretty important, and I was really glad to relay that message.

After the event was over, Diana and I went to grab a bite before I headed back to my home near Houston.  In the course of our conversation, Diana asked how she could pay better attention to her own intuition.  I told her to pay attention to everything and most of all, consider the possibilities.  Could this thought that popped into your head mean something?  Could a billboard have a private message just for you?  And, specifically, I told her, “For example, if you’re driving down the freeway and a song comes on the radio that reminds you of your dad, then why can’t that be your dad’s way of saying hello?  Most people will dismiss that, so consider that it really might be.”

A couple of hours later, I was driving back south on I-45, and I had been listening to radio stations on my phone.  I was tired of those, so I tried tuning in to something decent on my car radio.  I pushed the “seek” button once, and the radio landed on a station playing “Through the Years” by Kenny Rogers.

Ever heard it?  It’s a pretty old song, released when I was a teenager.  And suddenly, a long-forgotten memory rushed to my mind.  I was at Diana’s parents’ anniversary party, and her dad played this song for her mom as a loving tribute.  If Diana’s dad wanted to thank me or say hello to me, and if he wanted to choose the song-on-the-radio method that I had just described to his daughter, this was the song.  It was the only song he could possibly have used.  And I was overwhelmed.

I called Diana immediately and she was thrilled!  She also reminded me that I had served as hostess at that anniversary party, just as she had served as hostess for me that day.

Thanks, Mr. Diana’s Dad!