Intruder Alert! What to Do When a Spirit Intrudes

Shortly after my client had her reading with me, she sent me this email:

“I woke up this morning way before I had to get up and was terrified—somebody was in my bed “spooning” me!

“At first, I thought I had a night mare or that it just felt like it. When I was completely awake, I still felt the person holding me and felt the warm body pressed against me. I was scared to move or breathe.

“I could not figure out why my burglar alarm did not go off. And why would somebody break in to spoon me?

“I was scared what would happen if the person woke up, but I finally decided to move just a little bit. As soon as I got away from that person, the person disappeared.

“I have never had an experience like this before. Did one of my helpers from the other side cross my boundaries? I hope that never happens again.”

And here is my response:

Wow, that IS creepy!

I’m sorry you’ve had this happen. I’ll tell you a couple of things that I hope will help.

Of course, when you thought it was a living person, that was more scary than thinking a “ghost” or spirit was there. And I’m so glad you’re safe and it wasn’t a living person.

Now. The next thing you need to know is that there is nothing in the non-physical that can hurt you in the physical. In other words, a “ghost” or spirit can’t choke you or hit you over the head with something.

So. I suggest you do this: Sit or lie on your bed and address this entity. It was probably someone you knew who has passed away, a boyfriend or husband, or it could have been an earth-bound spirit or “ghost” who thought you were someone he knew. Either way, you address this being thus:

“Hello. This morning when you lay behind me, you really frightened me. I’m sure you didn’t mean me any harm, but I was very afraid. Will you please not frighten me anymore?”

You may want to add something like, “If you need my help, please let me know in some way that I can understand and I will help you if I can. Otherwise, please leave me alone.”

Speak lovingly. I’ve told people for years to speak to it in love and it will transform or go away.

If it ever happens again, say, “There is only love here. God loves you. Please do not visit me again.”

I hope this helps. Please do let me know if anything further happens and I will do my best to help you. I can also refer you to someone to do a clearing of your house, if you need that.



What Is Heaven Really Like?

I want to talk about HEAVEN. I always used to prefer the term “the Other Side”, because “Heaven” seemed like such a “churchy” word, and one that evoked equivalent possibilities of hell, purgatory, failure, and other unpleasant ideas.

I also thought that streets paved with gold, as described in the Bible, seemed a bit silly, just because I don’t care about golden streets in this life and presumably won’t in the next. I mean, unless you can pull up the golden cobbles and trade them for food and lodging, what good are they? Also, when the sun is shining, which is presumably at all times in this church Heaven, aren’t gold streets blinding?

(But I digress.)

Now. I have talked to a LOT of people who are on “the Other Side”. I mean, hundreds–nay, thousands of people who have passed from this life. And many of them have given me the thought, “Heaven is exactly what I hoped it would be.” And they’ve shown me what they hoped for and what their “Heaven” is like.

(One gentleman told me he was surprised by Heaven, because it wasn’t churchy, as he expected. He took the “house of many mansions” and “streets paved with gold” stuff literally, and half-expected to be praying and singing hymns for all eternity–imagine his pleasant surprise when it turned out to be more like what he would have enjoyed in life, but better! No feelings of regret, sorrow, anger, or other negatives. And with the opportunity to help his loved ones! But I’m getting ahead of myself. Read on.)

They’ve also shown and told and described for me what they do for their living loved ones from their Heaven. While I have eschewed the concept of a late loved one becoming your guardian angel, those on the Other Side do actually seem to be helping the rest of us here in life. Maybe “guardian angel” isn’t the exact thing they are, but they are helping you. Yes, your late mother or grandmother or uncle really is joining your angels and guides to help you and yes, you really can call on them and/or “pray” to them. And isn’t that the idea of Heaven, even in the church’s sense?

Please comment below with your ideas about Heaven.

Anatomy of a Reading with Psychic Susan K

You may have read my FAQs and/or my “What to Expect”. And no doubt you have read this somewhere on my site:

In your reading with me, you will experience:

  • Communication with your late loved ones (“RIPs”)
  • Predictions of what is to come in the Big Four – Work, Health, Love, and Money
  • Validation (or contradiction) of what you already know (or think you know)
  • Information to help you in all your relationships–with family, friends, and bosses, as well as love interests
  • Insight into what you WILL do, not what you SHOULD do (although, honestly, sometimes I tell you what you SHOULD do anyway, either because I can’t help it or because it will lead you to what you WILL do)
  • Angel cards thrown and interpreted by Yours Truly to confirm what we have talked about

And here’s what you will NOT experience in a reading with me:

  • Bullshit
  • Religion or info about God or angels that is not useful to you
  • Vague answers, such as “Archangel Michael is with you in this situation”
  • Guilt or shame from your late loved ones–or me
  • Exposure of some deep, dark secret–or even shallow ones–that you don’t want to discuss
  • Threats of curses and demands for more money
  • Scary stuff

Now let me walk you through an actual reading, just like we were working together one-on-one.

I start by asking your date of birth, because I know about “—–” this much about astrology, and that is sometimes useful as I work with you. I also like to know how old you are, so that I have some idea of your frame of reference in this life. For example, were you an original “women’s libber” back in the ’60’s and ’70’s? Or were you one of my corporate contemporaries in the ’80’s and ’90’s? Did you grow up with the Beatles or the Spice Girls? Were you a victim of the real estate and savings and loan crashes of the ’80’s or a beneficiary of the tech boom in the ’90’s? These things inform your life and personality, so they’re helpful for me to know.

Next, I describe what we are going to do, and then we do it. We start with Your Color Snapshot. This is something that is unique to me as a psychic medium. I started out, way back in 2005, reading my clients’ chakras. I had done quite a bit of study about chakras and I based my original practice on my ability to visualize them and receive information based on that visualization. I also wrote my meditation guide with an emphasis on chakras. Each chakra is associated with a color, and I did a lot of work on the Colors of Energy (I have a blog category just on that.)

As I read for more people, the colors became deeply ingrained in my intuition. By looking psychically at your energy, I see colors–usually in geometric shapes, around your body. When I apply my medical intuition to your physical body, I also see colors in different areas.

I always take notes during a reading. It’s hard for me not to, actually. When I work with a group, I love to have a white board or a notepad on an easel to draw what I am seeing psychically and to make notes. I scan in these notes after a reading and send them to you. Years ago, I found out that we all learn better in color, and I started taking my notes for readings with colored pens. I would ask the client’s A&G’s (Angels & Guides) what color to write in. Eventually, my pens ran out of ink, but I kept asking for that color–and that became the Color Snapshot.

In my pre-reading meditation for your reading, when I call in your A&G’s and mine, and request “everyone who has our best interests at heart” to join us, I also ask what the color is for for you on that day. This color is associated with specific parts of your life, just like the chakras, and there is usually a directive that comes with it from your A&G’s.

After the Color Snapshot, we talk to your RIPs. These are your loved ones who have passed away. If I have not seen or noticed one or more RIPs in my pre-reading meditation, I ask you if there is anyone you want to talk to (first name and relationship to you), I call them up on the Heaven Phone, and we go from there. I typically will confirm we have the right person by identifying personality, physical appearance, and/or events that pertain to you. Then they might give you a specific message and/or you can ask them questions and I convey their answers.

Please know that there is no requirement to participate in this part of the reading. If you are not interested for any reason, we just skip it. Some readings are spent almost entirely with the RIP section, and that’s fine too. I customize each reading to your specific needs at the time.

Next, we answer your questions. Whatever is going on in your life, that’s what we talk about. People typically ask about their job, their marriage, their money, and/or their health, but nothing is really off limits. If you don’t have any questions or anything going on, I simply look at your energy and tell you what is going on. For example, I recently saw a yellow rectangle coming in to my client’s jaw on each side of her head. That probably means nothing to you at face value. But from looking at that, I could tell her that she was about to expand her intellect, either with school/classes or other study, and she would be impressing upon someone else (or more than one person), as well as herself, about her intellect and worthiness–such as to be promoted at work or to support her husband.

This is how I communicate with and receive information from your A&G’s and mine. I tell you WHAT is coming and, if I can, WHEN, and I advise you on how to make things happen more smoothly or how to avoid something you don’t want. Yes, I DO predict the future, because that is what I DO!

I am also really good at looking at the people in your life and telling you what you don’t know about them. In this way, I facilitate your communication and ability to improve those relationships. Can I tell you if your husband is cheating? Yes. Can I tell you if you are going to stay married whether he’s cheating or not? Yes. Can I tell you what to do about it? Yes. Can I tell you if you are going to win the lottery…? Sure—if you actually are!

Finally, I throw a few angel or oracle cards to confirm what we have talked about and to make sure we haven’t missed anything important. This is a meaningful part of the reading, because it helps you to know that I am really conveying the messages that Spirit or your A&G’s are trying to get to you.

You’ll find testimonials all over this website. But generally, here’s how you’ll feel after a reading with me:

  • that you’ve received validation of (or contradiction of) what you already thought was best for you
  • relieved regarding your RIP/s
  • joyful and possibly healed from connecting with your RIP/s
  • armed with new information about your living loved ones (and maybe one or two you don’t love)
  • relieved from worry about “stuff” that’s going on
  • reassured about good things coming up
  • surprised or even skeptical over predictions–save my notes for when those come true!
  • awed regarding what you learn about Heaven and your RIP/s
  • lighter in your heart and in your energy, cleaner and clearer
  • like your fears have been alleviated

When we are done, I scan in my notes and email them to you for your use and future reference. I do not usually look back at notes from previous readings I have had with you, and the information tends to flow through me, so I don’t always remember. I purposely do not review before your next reading so that I am reading for you here and now. I do have people say, “Last time you said such-and-such. Do you see that having changed?” The answer to that is almost always “No”, but you are welcome to ask any questions you may have from previous readings.

In short, a reading with me is meaningful, inspiring, reassuring, helpful, informative, entertaining, and often very emotional. I can’t wait to work with you!

Hurt People Hurt People

No doubt you’ve heard this about abusers: Hurt people hurt people. It means that abusers aren’t born, they’re made. No one just wants to hurt others when his heart is full of love and joy. It takes someone who is damaged to become an abuser.

As a psychic, I have made a habit of looking at pictures of people to see who they really are. It’s always there in the eyes. I can see love, joy, fear, sorrow, and all of the human emotions in the eyes. And not only in the eyes, but around them. You may have this ability yourself. You may also be good at reading body language.

I’m sometimes surprised when I look closely at a celebrity, someone whose picture I’ve seen a hundred times. I look at the eyes and the “eye zone” and I might see something surprising, like fear or sorrow or shame.

Many years ago, before I even became a professional, I saw a newspaper article about a man who was arrested for murder. I took one look at his picture and said, “They’ve got the wrong guy.” It took awhile, about two years as I recall, but the man was exonerated.

Today, I saw a headline “Suspected Serial Rapist in Custody.” My first thought was, well, that’s good, get the guy off the streets where he can’t hurt anyone else. And then I looked at the man’s face in the picture. And what I saw surprised me. It was sadness. Deep, pained sadness. Then I saw anger on top of that, but the depth of his sorrow was palpable to me. And that’s when I remembered that expression, “Hurt people hurt people.” I don’t know what his background is or why he is so sad, but I know it is from long ago, when he was very small.

This Is Why

You know how I love to play with graphics! (No? Check out some of the “Pithy Quotes” in the blog categories—> over there.) When I did this brief reading with a client who was in a desperate moment, it was all done on Facebook, and I did it on my phone! Kind of tiny and hard to translate for you here. So I made this cool graphic that tells the whole story without identifying my client in any way. Oh, I had a great time putting it together! BUT. Yes, it’s kind of hard to read, especially if you are looking at this on your phone. So I’m typing up a transcript below the image. Either way, enjoy!


Client: Oh Susan, I’m very unhappy with my marriage, he’s become very controlling, negative & tries belittleing me a lot, I’m planning to leave soon. I can’t take much more…so I’m on a waiting list for an apartment I can afford but don’t know how long of a wait. I want you to tell me what is best to do or go til one opens up, I can go to …. or maybe go to my … I need not what I will do but what is best to do, haha*  I’m even afraid to tell …  I’m leaving

* Reference: I try to tell my clients what they WILL do, not what they SHOULD do, because they won’t take my advice, so she’s making a little funny here.

Client: Can’t seem to stop my brain, I don’t think I explained my fears in the right way, my fear is going to … to stay til an apartment opens up for me, I’ve worked really hard to get where I am … I’m worried about losing my customers down here if I go to …. I also will be a long way from my kids & grandkids & also the fear of not being able to get back here … But I can’t handle being here with him, I’m limited because of my money, I’m so sorry asking this.

Psychic Susan K: Okay. First, don’t be sorry. I am happy to help if I can. “Best” is to stay in the area, so with … or possibly a friend. (I’m feeling like there is a friend who would be happy to have you for a bit.) Your … are so awesome and you need to keep that going. You are doing all the right things. Don’t tell … –just go when he’s not there. Seriously. What you’re describing sounds like the kind of thing that will escalate to physical abuse–it’s already emotional abuse. You are fully justified in leaving and you owe him no explanation. Just do it, and the sooner, the better. You have already discovered strength you didn’t know you had–it’s only going to get better from here. You may feel like this is a very low time, but from my perspective, the world is your oyster. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain with nowhere to go but up. That may sound like a lot of platitudes rolled into one! But I’m serious. This will turn out to be one of the best things that ever happened to you. Go for it and don’t look back! One of my really clever friends likes the quote: “Burn the corpses–we shall fight by firelight!” So there you go!

I just pulled a card for you, too: Hydrate/Quench. Just make sure you’re drinking lots of water. It’s important for some reason.

Client: Susan thank you so much, I was arguing with my gut feeling , just having problems thinking what’s best, there’s no one I trust more than you, thank you, I’ll call … today

Psychic Susan K: Wonderful! You can do this, really, you can. And your gut knows, doesn’t it?

Client: Yes it does!


Client: Susan, I know you will like what I have to tell you, I was blessed twice today once with you & 2nd time an hour ago, I went to … & ran into my friend of 35 years, her daughter & 3 grandkids moved in with her so I knew she didn’t have room for me BUT her daughter … was there too, I’ve been in all her kids’ life since they were born. … told me to stay at her house & I can bring my 2 dachshunds also, her husband & a friend are going to move my things in storage for me & they’re friends with the Chief of Police & are going to give him a heads up so Thursday or Friday I’m out! I broke down & cried, everything you said, the only thing I’m afraid of is he comes home … he’ll be driving up to us moving my things out not knowing

Psychic Susan K: Don’t worry. You won’t be there at that moment and the others will be your buffer. Thank you for sharing this with me. I knew there would be a friend who was going to help you out! That is wonderful!

Client: No you are wonderful, funny thing I didn’t even have to ask, thank you so much . You truly have a gift & a very kind heart to go with it.

Psychic Susan K:  (heart heart heart heart heart)