Pocket Full of Change

These four sets of coins show the things I have always wanted, backed with their opposites. Rich/poor, fat/thin, married/single, popular/unpopular.

You may have other coins, like employed/unemployed, healthy/sick, happy/depressed, even parent/childless. That last one can be a bit tricky to change spiritually, if you are having fertility problems, but everything is energy, so let’s keep going.

I tend to think or believe that I haven’t had the “bright” sides, but that’s not true. For example, my angels guided me to see this: I’m married now—how did I manifest it or receive it? How did I activate it in my experience? I was single a very long time.

The first thing I realize is that I was focused on not being married for a long time. When my first husband died, I felt strongly that I needed to be married, so I got married right away. I quickly discovered that I would much rather be single than married to the wrong man. Divorced him, toute suite.

A year and a half later, I started dating a man whom I soon fell in love with. I wanted to marry him for the entire seven years that we dated, until he dumped me to marry someone else. (His main reason for not marrying me was that I was poor—one of my other coins. Hoo-boy.)

After he dumped me, I declared that I would never again want someone who didn’t want me—and that has served me well in several instances, including friendships. (Are you taking notes?)

I found that, apart from often not having enough money (because it can be hard for a woman to make a good living unless she is a doctor or lawyer or other professional), being single was fine. When I thought about it, I focused on the good things about it, like choosing whatever I wanted—on TV, to buy, to cook or not to cook, to go and do whatever—without having to consult or even consider someone, especially someone who was a terrible husband, like my second one.

I processed the hell out of my past romantic relationships, too, and learned all I could about myself, how I could behave differently, and what I wanted to give and share. And receive. By “processed”, I mean that I scrutinized incidents and conversations and arguments, all to see from my new objective point of view what I could have done differently to show the Universe that I loved and valued myself, not only him. (More notes here.)

I made a couple of different lists of characteristics I wanted in a mate. I eventually tore up and threw away the first one and I posted the other one on Facebook. Not very long after the post, I met Don.

This is what my angels guided me through about the coins. The pairings are sides of one coin. You can’t be both at once, not rich and poor, for example. (Although you can be in between.)

I’ve always wanted to be rich, thin, married, and popular. But I am instead broke, fat, and unpopular—but now married!

And that’s why I am using that married/single coin to figure out how I came to settle on the “wrong” side of the other coins and how to change them. Is it because I liked and embraced being single, the “dark” side of that coin? Have I focused too much on the “dark” sides of the other coins? Does fear have anything to do with it?

Let’s take a look at popular/unpopular. When I was in junior high and high school, all I wanted was to be popular (and thin, but that’s a different coin—and I wasn’t even fat!). By the time I was a senior, I was probably what most people would consider popular: I had plenty of friends and a lot of people knew who I was. But I was never in the “popular crowd”, so I thought I was unpopular—or maybe “not popular”.

In the intervening years, I mostly have felt that I didn’t have enough friends—although I did feel popular for a couple of years when I led a large networking group in Austin. Also, I had a lot of work with my first business—I did not equate that with popularity, but I should have—but I have not had nearly enough clients since then. And in my life now, “popularity” equals “lots of clients”.

Popularity is still important in terms of clients and work. Those “likes” on my Facebook fan page are paramount. How does “Madame Not-Even-Any-Good Psychic” have 10,000 likes? I don’t know that answer any more now than I knew how someone became a cheerleader in high school. If I did, I would have bottled it by now and made a mint!

Speaking of unpopular, last year, two groups of friends dumped me—turned on me, even. One was my little clutch from late high school/college—the really tight besties. The other was a bunch of childhood friends who had always been in my life. Both hurt.

I’ve known for some time that I always thought I was fat when I wasn’t. I was adorable when I was younger and thinner! (I am actually fat now. Even the doctor says so.) Most of us have this trouble, never thin enough, right? But I have been mostly in body-acceptance mode for about 10 years or so. That “fat thing” is so very deeply ingrained in Western women, it’s hard to overcome. If I go by my “married coin”, my acceptance and even love for my fat body should do the trick, right? Well, as of this writing, I’m down ten pounds. Shrug.

Now, for the “rich/poor” coin. I have been comfortable (never “rich”) at times in my life, but I have mostly focused on the times of struggle, even discounting the prosperous times as exceptions, too few and far between. I’m not sure what the reality is, as I have been in the “poor” zone for a very long time now. I fear/ed poverty and struggle and not-enough-ness…

And maybe fear is the key. According to the Law of Attraction, what you focus on expands. Being afraid is one way of focusing your vibration. I was afraid of being single when Tim died, but not at all when I divorced Number Two. I came to embrace and even like being single, in large part because I knew how bad it was to be married to the wrong person. I don’t want to be single now only because I love Don and want to be with him. But I’m not afraid of being single.


  • I’m not afraid of being fat.
  • I’m not afraid of being poor.
  • I’m not afraid of being unpopular.

Of course, with affirmations, we use positive words:

  • I embrace being fat.
  • I embrace being poor.
  • I embrace being unpopular.

Whew! Heady stuff.

Next: What’s good or “to like” about being fat, poor, and unpopular? Maybe you can extrapolate these for your own coins.

  • Fat = still pretty, more feminine/womanly, empathetic to other fat women, might help others overcome their fear of fatness, will survive and ice age, and won’t ever freeze to death
  • Poor = makes you get creative (with food, clothes, décor), you find out who loves you unconditionally (and who doesn’t—no, really, people will abandon or hate you when you are poor), you really appreciate bargains and cheap entertainment—which you can continue when you have more money too
  • Unpopular = plenty of “me-time”? Appreciate yourself? Make changes that make you more likeable? Get creative with how to meet/reach people? Obviously, this one is still tripping me up.

Start off with embracing what is now and what you’ve got. While you are “haunted” by your fears of the “dark” side of your coin, your coins cannot change.

Appreciate moments that were what you like, if any. Remember a time you had that and enjoy the memories, being careful not to be resentful that those times are no more.

And finally, look forward to improvements, but don’t depend on them for your happiness. Let your happiness stand on its own, enjoying and giving thanks for what is here and now, remembering and cherishing the good things that used to be, and smiling at your imagination of the “bright” side of the coin that is coming.

And get ready—those coins can flip very quickly!


In Sickness and in Health: Why You Attract Illness and Injury, Part 1

If you get sick or hurt, it’s all your fault. Yep, that’s right, you did it!

Sure, that sounds pretty mean and maybe your first reaction is, “No, it’s not my fault!” But if you accept responsibility for attracting or creating illness (and everything else in your life), then there is good news–you have the power to change it!

Let me explain. Everything starts with Spirit. There is a chunk of Spirit within you, that is commonly called your Soul, and it is a part of a massive Energy, that is commonly called God–although for my purposes, I will call it something else. The word “God” is so super-charged with fear and guilt and emotion and judgment that I prefer to use a word that will better connote the idea of creation and forward motion. For this post, I’ll use “Spirit” to indicate this massive creative force.

In addition to your Soul, you have what I call angels and guides, extra-physical energy entities that guide you on your planned journey through this life. (Yes, there’s a plan–and you planned it!) And you have messengers in the form of other incarnate Souls like yourself, along with events, experiences, feelings, and thoughts–all lined up to give you messages that will guide you to live your best life, the life you came here to live.

Simple enough? I hope so, but take a moment to let that sink in.

Spirit constantly communicates with you, starting with your emotions and thoughts (think, “Listen to your heart”), and working through many other things in your environment and awareness. Your body is a messenger, as well, but by the time Spirit starts to talk through your body, in the form of illness or injury, it has reached its last resort.

Now, we are all born with an understanding of the Language of Spirit. However, in a very short time, we forget it, simply because of the way that human beings have evolved culturally. For example, our parents had to be sure we could get along in the world, so they had to say “No” when we tried to touch the stove or run into the street or bite another child. And if you are a parent, like me, you do this too.

We only have as much understanding as we have had, and we have gotten away from the Language of Spirit, whose sole (or “soul”) purpose is to guide us to our best life and to assist in fulfilling our life purpose.

What this means is that if we could remember how to listen to our Spirit (remember “Listen to your heart”), we would not get sick or hurt. Likewise, if we become enlightened or gain the understanding that we need, even after becoming sick or hurt, we would be healed.

Next time, I will cite a couple of examples to help illustrate all of this. Until then, see if you can handle it! I look forward to bringing you more!

Why You Shouldn’t Care About Life Lessons

study babyI received an email from a fellow spiritual teacher in which she talked about “lessons”.  You’ve probably heard something about lessons all your life–you have to learn your lessons, you came into this life to learn certain lessons and you’ll keep being challenged until you learn the lesson.


Pardon my profanity, but I never like using the word “lessons”.  The word “lesson” contains implicit reference to your ability to pass or fail.  And that’s just not how it works.

The Universe is logical.  There is no pass or fail, no right or wrong way to live your life.  There is only what you like and what you don’t like.

Yes, you learn, but not because anyone is keeping score and not because you might fail and mess up and fall down and never get it right.  You don’t have to get it right.  Your mission is to live in the way that you like.

Yes, there are consequences to actions, thoughts, and feelings.  What you get to learn is which actions, thoughts, and feelings bring the consequences you like, instead of the ones you don’t like.

Yes, it can be a little tricky.  But you have plenty of cosmic help and support.  Instead of “lessons”, think of “messages”.  Messages come at you all the time.  This is the word I prefer to “lessons”.  If you think of “messages” being provided to you through the consequences you are experiencing, you can figure out which messages lead you to the consequences you like.

Pay attention!  Thoughts that pop into your head, conversations you overhear, something that gets your attention on the radio, experiences that happen to you, and eventually your own body… all of these contain messages that are intended to guide you toward what you like.

Pay attention!

In Sickness and in Health: Why You Attract Illness and Injury, Part 2

sick[originally published August 12, 2009]

If you missed Part 1, you’ll find it here.

I am back with more info for you on Health and Spirit! Last time, I talked about how we all attract illness and injury as Spirit’s last-resort effort to communicate with us. And I promised a couple of examples to illustrate how this works.

Ultimately, you will see illness or injury as a big, bright message that will guide you to be enlightened about yourself. So open your mind, and read the story about Marjorie.

My client’s mother, Marjorie, died of bladder cancer, a rare cancer whose only suspected cause is exposure to second-hand smoke. Marjorie was indeed exposed to second-hand smoke, and this is an example of the way that Spirit, working with Body, will use what is in your environment to give you a message (or several).

You may have heard that cancer is often related to old anger, bitterness, or holding a grudge. As a medical intuitive, I agree. And when I learned more about Marjorie’s experience, I discovered what her bitterness was about.

First, though, let me explain about the bladder. It resides in the area of your energy that pertains to creation, procreation/children, and primary romantic relationships. When Spirit’s message to you is about one of those things, especially creating what you came into this life to create, the illness or injury will manifest in that area.

What did this mean to Marjorie? Well, Marjorie’s only child (my client) was adopted, because Marjorie was unable to have children biologically. There’s one reason she was bitter. In addition, she was relegated to spending her life behind the counter in her husband’s store, unable to create anything that she chose to create, and never given—or finding—an opportunity to develop something of her own.

After a lifetime of not being able to create, or make—think of the symbolism of saying “make water” to mean “urinate”—she developed a symbol of her anger, the cancer, in the area of energy where her anger lay or was directed.

This was Spirit’s last-ditch effort to reach her, urging her to make changes in her life so that she could be happy.

Next time, I’ll talk about preventing such tragedies by remembering the Language of Spirit.

Why Did I Attract THIS?

[originally published October 19, 2007–and still completely relevant]


That’s the question we all need to ask all the time.

Many people have seen “The Secret” (and if you haven’t seen it, please go to http://www.thesecret.tv/ and watch it) and have been studying the Law of Attraction, so they’re starting to be conversant in some of those principles.

In my practice as a psychic medium and medical intuitive, I am starting to notice that my clients don’t get the whole picture of just what this attraction thing is.

Simply stated, the Law of Attraction is a law of physics that applies to your life in that what you put your attention on, you attract to you. Most people look at this law like “How can I attract more money/love/etc.?”

And that is great. That is the best use of the Law of Attraction and if you are consistently attracting things, people, relationships, and experiences that please you, I congratulate you! That is fantastic!

Unfortunately, that is not the case for about 98% of us out there. Most of us continue to attract at least a few things that we’re not too crazy about and here’s the kicker: nobody knows they’re doing it.

Just this past week, I have talked to three clients who were actually offended when I suggested that they had attracted experiences into their life that they didn’t like. “Why would I attract THAT?” they demanded. “I don’t want THAT, it’s BAD.”

Right, I get that. I understand that you don’t consciously want car trouble, health problems, bad grades, bad breath, or whatever. Who would?

And that’s exactly why you need to ask, “Why did I attract THIS?” Anything that gets your attention for better or worse, ask the question.

Here’s a dire example. Many people know that my husband died several years ago and left me with two small children to raise and very little life insurance. Why did I attract THAT?

Why indeed. I may never know all the reasons, but I know there are some, probably many, and some of them I do understand. And with some of those larger things (and maybe the small things too), your spirit got together with other spirits to plan some of the important events you wanted in your life as a human.

This is why we sometimes have trouble understanding—we don’t communicate with our own spirits very well. I work to bridge that gap for my clients, helping them communicate with Spirit and understand why they’re here—even when they’re attracting things they don’t like.

Food for thought, eh?

Gunfight at the OK Corral

Ever seen the movie, “Gunfight at the OK Corral”?  Me either.

Ever watch the original “Star Trek”?  Well, okay, I admit, I like it.  That one and “Next Generation”.  I’m not exactly a Trekker, but I do enjoy a little cheap 60s (or 90s) sci-fi now and then.  And I have found some great messages in some of those old shows.

The movie, “Gunfight at the OK Corral” is a fictionalized account of an actual gunfight that took place in 1881 in Tombstone, Arizona.  You might have seen a different movie about the same story, such as “Tombstone”.

In the original Star Trek episode, “Spectre of the Gun”, the Captain and his away team attempt to make peaceful contact with an alien race and discover that they have been cast as the losers in a gun battle.  Drawing on their American history, or devices that provided such, our heroes quickly determine that their fate will be death at the hands of imaginary gunmen in the OK Corral.

Mr. Spock knows that he is completely capable of maintaining disbelief in the charade, as that is what the situation is, but the others, being fully-human, can’t help but believe what they are seeing and being told.  They believe the bullets are real, and therefore, they will die if shot with them.

Mr. Spock wields his clever mind-meld to correct the others’ beliefs, and–whew!–the bullets go through them without any damage.  And the team is safe!

Isn’t that a fun story?  Oh, it’s a nail-biter.  And here’s the point:  You live (or die) by what you believe too.

If you believe the bullets will kill you, they will.  If you believe that there’s no way you can ever make any more money than you make today, then you won’t ever make any more.  If you believe that you will always be overweight, if you believe you will never find true love, if you believe that … whatever you believe, you create.

And then, you believe what you have created.

Take a break from reality for a while.  And see if you can believe something a little less, well, believable.

Oh, where is Mr. Spock when we need him?