More about Money

It keeps coming up again and again. Clients asking about money. Or complaining about money, or more accurately, the lack thereof.

As we discussed in part at the 2012 panel I served last weekend in Denver, everything is changing in our world, and that includes money and how we get it and use it. As just one pointed example, the 2008 stock market crash–that was just the beginning of a highly mercurial time in the market. I said BACK THEN that it was one of the old systems that were starting to break down–not to end prosperity, but to give way to new methods that will give most or all of the world greater prosperity. The stock market will still be around for those who want to work/play that way, but it will come to the point that it is no longer the main basis of the world economy.  (I also discussed how talking about recession will bring recession on, here.)

And as always, the less you resist coming changes, the easier it will be for you.

I’ve been working on editing the readings I’ve done on Phacebook Phenom the last six months, and I ran across this:

“Relief from financial straits will come sooner and easier if you work on YOU, spiritually, inside-out, working on learning what it’s really all about and how you create successfully.”

Of course, you and I do that all that time, right?  But maybe this will help.  Recently, I noticed what I had managed to do and realized that I was actually doing it!  I was actually meeting some of my short-term goals, and this was proof enough to convince myself that I WAS IN full-on receive mode.  Not long after, I got the message that it needs to be give-and-receive mode, because the two are equal parts of a whole.  And that had been coming to me before that as “reward”, like “You will be rewarded.”  And that’s what I am focusing on philosophically at the moment.

Also, I want to respond to what a client said about “the Universe was about to take care of us.”  Remember that what comes to you comes from you.  The Universe doesn’t care what you want or how you put it out there; it can only say “yes”.  So if you’re putting out there that you are not being taken care of, that’s what comes back to you.  Casting your bread upon the waters, as it were.  Start putting it out there (and lying to me, yourself and others, if you must) that you are fully provided for.

The thing about lying is that it’s very uncomfortable for me, and I’m bad at it.  I’m sure like you, I was raised to be truthful.  But according to Abraham, you should tell your story the way you want it to be, and screw the “facts”.  And that’s what I just said above, pretty much.

I know it’s hard not to be fearful in a difficult situation.  I have definitely born my share of fear!  And I still do!  And I’m the brilliant one!    But it is the most counter-productive thing you can do, to indulge fear.  (To consider creating with fear, see this blog post.)

You know what I always say, “The only devil is fear, and the only sin is neglecting your own happiness.”

Willpower vs. Desire

We all know what it takes to break a habit, right?  You just have to have the willpower to do it!

It takes willpower to quit smoking, lose weight, or get that Starbucks monkey off your back!  If you don’t have the willpower, you’re told that you are “weak” or “weak-willed”.  And you pray for the willpower to make something happen.

Well, what if, instead of trying to “will” yourself to do something good for you, you just had the desire to do it?

What if you just woke up one morning and said, “I am so excited to go to the gym!”?  And you really felt excited to go work out?  Or you just had NO DESIRE for another cigarette.  Wow.

One of my friends quit smoking years ago, and after about 5 years, I asked her, “Do you ever want a cigarette?”  She said, “Every day.”

By using willpower, she didn’t smoke, but she still WANTED to smoke.

I myself am a former smoker.  Yes, it’s true.  And you know there is nothing more sanctimonious than an ex-smoker!  I actually quit 5 times before it took.  And the reason?  I quit because I had the DESIRE.  The first 4 times, I only used willpower.  And I eventually failed.

You see, when you feel the desire to do something, there is no need for willpower.  You don’t have to think about it.  You just do what you have the desire to do.  You don’t have to will yourself to go to the gym or not to smoke.  You don’t have to make yourself go to a job you hate or not to go to Starbucks.  (I admit I’m a Starbucks junkie with no DESIRE to quit!)

So where do you get this fabulous thing called desire?  Ask.

That’s it.  You just ask for it.  And you tell Mr. Will Power good-bye, because you don’t need him anymore.  Miss Dee Zire has taken over and she feels good!

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Are You a Synesthete?

“Well, let me look at that,” I told my client.  “What I’m seeing is that, at about age 32, you’re going to have a break-through.  And it’s yellow, so that means it has to do with your intelligence and self-esteem, like you’ll be using your smarts to do your job, and you’ll feel great about it.”

As you may know, when I work, I often “see” things in my mind’s eye.  I get images of people who have passed away, as well as pictures of what’s going on with the client and what will go on in the future.

One of the most useful things I see in this way is time.  Yes, I see time.  It doesn’t look like a calendar, but it does follow a pattern.  And it has colors associated with it too.  Each day has its own color and so does each month.  If I “look” at your “lifeline”, which is what I call the time of your life from birth to death*, I’ll see certain ages pop out with regard to what I am looking for.

This “crossover” of senses is called synesthesia.  Some people smell colors.  Some people see music.  Others can feel words or get a taste in their mouth when they think of a word.

The root words of synesthesia mean “same senses”.  (Just as anesthesia refers to “no senses.”)  When a person is using one sense in the regular way, such as hearing music, he might also react with another sense, such as seeing a color or tasting a taste.

Synesthesia is not terribly rare, but it’s not common either.  My type of synesthesia, which I can remember having all my life, is the most common kind.

So what about you?  Now that you know what it is, are you a synesthete?

(*I generally do not see a person’s actual death, and if I were to get an age of death, I would never reveal it to the client.  This is not information that anyone needs.)

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Dr. Anthony on Changing Your Reality

You may recall that I featured Dr. Robert Anthony in this blog post not long ago.  Dr. Anthony recently sent an email that really got me thinking, and I thought it might be helpful to you too.  See what you think:

Dr. Robert Anthony“If you want your reality to be different from ‘what is’, then you might as well try to teach your cat to bark. You can try and try and in the end the cat will look up at you and say ‘Meow’.  Wanting your reality to be different from what it is in this moment is just as stupid.  You can spend the rest of your life trying to teach your cat to bark, but you will never succeed.

“And yet if you pay attention, you’ll notice that you think thoughts like this dozens of times every day.  People should be… My neighbors should be… My husband should…  My wife should… I should…

“These thoughts are ways of wanting reality to be different from the way it is. Here is my point – all the stress you feel in your life at this moment is caused by arguing with ‘what is’.

“People say to me, ‘But if I simply accept reality then I will become passive and nothing will change.’  I answer them with this question.  ‘Which of these statements makes more sense?  “I wish I hadn’t lost all that money.” or “What can I do now to create more income?”‘

“Accepting ‘what is’ doesn’t mean you condone or approve of the way things are, it just means you give up all the resistance and inner struggle by wishing it were different.  No one wants to lose their money, have their children get sick or be in a car accident.

“However, when these things happen it can it be helpful not to mentally argue with them. We know better than to do that, yet we do it because it is a HABITUAL PATTERN.

“I am a lover of ‘what is’, not because it is the ‘right’ thing to do, but because it hurts when I argue with reality, and when I do, I ALWAYS lose.”

What do you think?  How does it make you feel?  Does this get your mind’s gears turning?  It certainly gave me plenty to think about!  Please share your comments below with me and other readers.

Is it really better to give than to receive?

gift 3I often find myself teaching clients about giving and receiving.

Many people are caught up in guilt and a lack of divine value, and they (we) have been taught that it is better to give than to receive.  This leads to an experience of lack in many, if not all, areas of one’s life.

That’s why I teach that it is equal to give as to receive, and you can’t have one without the other.  This then leads me to instruct my clients to practice giving to and receiving from themselves, accomplishing four things:

  1. Show the Universe that you are ready to receive, so that other receiving opportunities will start showing up in your experience.
  2. Get accustomed to receiving.
  3. Develop your sense of divine value.
  4. Learn that giving and receiving are equal.

How do you give to yourself?

  • Start small–give a compliment to yourself in the mirror and accept it with thanks, grace, and no excuses.
  • Think of a chore as something that you give to yourself because you are worthy.  For example, think, “I’m washing these clothes, because I am special enough to have clean and presentable clothes to wear.”
  • Make a special meal just for yourself, and enjoy it without television or other distractions.  Focus on the food and the gift you have prepared for yourself.
  • Give gifts to yourself, such as new shoes, a massage, a facial, a book, or a concert.  Include another if you like, and thank yourself profusely, honoring the gift and the receipt.

Try this for yourself, and feel free to share it with your friends too.  I am all for everyone becoming good receivers!

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Happy New Year! (2012)

Can you believe it is already 2012?  I have some thoughts on the New Year–and the old one.

First, though, I loved the holidays, just as I always do every year, and I hope yours were at least pleasant or even extraordinary!  For me personally, besides marrying off my older daughter and enjoying the rest of my family for Christmas, while she and her new husband were off on their honeymoon, I had a couple of big stresses.

The worst one was getting a computer virus right before Christmas.  As I write this, it is still not completely back together.  The computer is working great, but all my data have yet to be restored.  I have faith that they will be (i.e., I EXPECT it–expectation = faith = manifestation), so I’m not really all that jumpy about it.  In fact, the whole situation has shown me that I am generally pretty relaxed and easy-going.  My sister even said that about me at Christmas.  She was telling me how anxious she gets over things and I started singing that Bobby McFerrin song, “Don’t worry… Be happy.”  She said, “That’s what you do!  I wish I could do that!”  And I hope that I can help impart that to others.  From my lips to God’s ears!

Anyway, here’s my thought about 2011.  You may recall my whining about 2010 here, even though I was spinning it all in a positive direction.  It was a pretty bad year; in fact, I still hold that it was the worst year of my life, and that includes the year my husband died!  (How?  Because his death was not the WHOLE YEAR.)  So there was almost no way that 2011 could be any worse, and it was bound to be better.  And it was!  Thank goodness!

However…   Here’s a story that helps illustrate how 2011 was better but still not what I wanted.  Several years ago, a friend’s wife was diagnosed with breast cancer.  It was one of the most curable versions of the disease and her treatment was relatively easy.  RELATIVELY.  That means, compared with many patients, she got off easy.  Later, my friend said, “We were so busy being grateful that it wasn’t worse, we forgot it was still horrible!”

And that’s kind of how I feel about 2011.  No, it wasn’t horrible.  It was MUCH MUCH better than 2010, which is all I could hope for last year!  But I want 2012 to be so wonderful that it makes me forget 2010 altogether!  Want to join me?  Let’s start expecting now!