Don’t Force It–Pull

For those of you who are, like me, old enough to remember such things, there was a delightful little sitcom on TV in the ’70s, called “Laverne & Shirley”.  It spun off from another sitcom, “Happy Days”.  (While it may have been a while ago, my barely-grown daughters are familiar with both shows, so you probably are too.  But if not, you can always Google it.)

Laverne and Shirley were roommates and best friends, so in the pilot episode, they moved into their new basement apartment in Milwaukee.  A scene that sticks with me is where Laverne is trying to get her key out of the lock.  She’s tugging with all her might, pushing one foot against the door for leverage, but the key won’t budge.

The landlady stops by and Laverne complains, “I can’t the stupid key out of the lock!”  The landlady reaches for the key and pulls it out with ease. 

“How did you do that?” Laverne asks, incredulous.

“Don’t force it–pull,” replies the landlady quite simply.

Later, the scene is played out again with Shirley sliding out the key and telling Laverne, “Don’t force it–pull.”

I’ve thought about this a lot lately.  Not because I have so much time to think about 1970s sitcoms, but because any time I feel like I am not attracting, creating, or accomplishing what I really desire, this simple phrase pops into my head:  Don’t force it–pull.

Replace “pull” with “allow” or “receive” and you’ve got a powerful motto. 

Sometimes when I feel like I am working very hard to create or attract what I want, I get this message and I think, I have to walk away, let go of all this “action” and simply allow my desires to manifest. 

This is for you.

Intuition and Intellect

[originally published May 18, 2009]

A message that has been coming up a lot lately, both for my clients and for me, is that about aligning your energy and working on it the same way you work on the practical, logical, tangible things. Think of the energetic or vibrational wonder that happens to you when you work in your garden. You’re physically and practically doing something, taking action, to get your garden to grow. But at the same time, you’re thinking about and feeling the goodness of connection to the earth, you’re putting your energy and thought into your garden.

Your life is like that. If you don’t like your job, then you are only doing the logical part. If you’re unhappy in a relationship and you do things to help it like going to counseling, having conversations, or setting up date nights, that is only the logical part. Work on the energy part.

Look at it this way–you were given both intellect and intuition. When you use them both, you are at your best.

Talk of Recession Harmful to Economy

[originally published May 30, 2008] —>  NOTICE THIS ORIGINAL DATE!  I’VE BEEN TALKING ABOUT THIS FOR A WHILE!  (And this was BEFORE the crash in October, 2008.)

“This has GOT to stop!” Thus spake my beloved grandmother on the occasion of her 80th birthday, as she craned her imperious, permanent-waved head toward the car’s power window to criticize my father. Several members of the family were packed into two cars and had discovered yet a third Houston restaurant to be closed.

Grandmother’s words were never more pertinent than now:  This talk of recession has got to stop!

Every headline reeks of havoc, recession, human-rights violations, oppression, fatigue, war, and Arma-crazy-geddon. I’m telling you, I’ve had it.  This has got to stop!

I look around me and everywhere I see a nation of big consumers. Sure, we gripe about the high price of gas, but we keep buying it. We keep driving wherever we want to or have to go. As a nation, we give generously to charitable causes at home and abroad. We keep buying more iPhones® and Wiis® and the other latest gadgets. We have so much disposable income, we now lag only behind Brazil in per capita elective plastic surgeries. And we have so much good food that we continue to be the fattest people on the planet.

Despite the record federal debt, we remain fabulously wealthy, compared with any time in history and any nation thus far. And yet, all we see are headlines and news stories reporting that the Dow dipped again or the NASDAQ saw its worst day since two-thousand-whatever or the economy is headed for heck in a handbasket, if it hasn’t already arrived.  A cautiously optimistic headline like, “Retailers rejoice over a strong May” gets buried like it’s decomposing.

Stop it already!  The thoughts and ideas that we entertain the most are the ones that continue to grow.  In other words, talk of a good economy encourages more of that good thing.  Likewise, endless talk of recession creates recession. Think about it. The last time the economy was great, it just kept getting greater. Remember the famous quote from the first Clinton campaign in ’92, “It’s the economy, stupid”? Well, that was no accident. The economy seemed to take on a fanciful life of its own when everyone noticed how great it was.

When was the last time you saw a good headline about the economy? I have actually seen a few, but they seem to be snatched off the internet headlines like dry laundry off the line, to be replaced with dirty laundry about–what else? Recession.

If you need help, here’s a great story to hang your hat on: Very recently, a couple of my friends decided they wanted to move to another neighborhood. They listed their house with a Realtor® and held an open house on a Saturday. That day, there were 11 showings of the house. By the following Monday evening, they had six-count ’em, six-offers on their house. The best one was considerably higher than the asking price.

2011 update:  My sister recently sold her house similarly quickly–listed on Wednesday, open house Saturday, three serious offers on Monday, two of whom got into a little bidding war, and my sister and her husband reaped more than their asking price!

This is not an isolated incident, and yet we hear nothing about it in the news. We must find those happy stories and hang onto them with all our might! Believe me, our might is better spent that way than on sorrier tales.

I’m not asking you to give up all bad news. And I’m certainly not suggesting that you live in a dreamy bubble, ignoring war or famine or people who need your care. All I am saying is, please stop writing and reading and listening to the news stories that say only bad and negative things every blessed day. And when you find a good story, for all our sakes, milk it for all it’s worth!

Remember, as Grandmother said, “This has GOT to stop!”

Why Did I Attract THIS?

[originally published October 19, 2007–and still completely relevant]

WHY DID I ATTRACT THIS…

That’s the question we all need to ask all the time.

Many people have seen “The Secret” (and if you haven’t seen it, please go to http://www.thesecret.tv/ and watch it) and have been studying the Law of Attraction, so they’re starting to be conversant in some of those principles.

In my practice as a psychic medium and medical intuitive, I am starting to notice that my clients don’t get the whole picture of just what this attraction thing is.

Simply stated, the Law of Attraction is a law of physics that applies to your life in that what you put your attention on, you attract to you. Most people look at this law like “How can I attract more money/love/etc.?”

And that is great. That is the best use of the Law of Attraction and if you are consistently attracting things, people, relationships, and experiences that please you, I congratulate you! That is fantastic!

Unfortunately, that is not the case for about 98% of us out there. Most of us continue to attract at least a few things that we’re not too crazy about and here’s the kicker: nobody knows they’re doing it.

Just this past week, I have talked to three clients who were actually offended when I suggested that they had attracted experiences into their life that they didn’t like. “Why would I attract THAT?” they demanded. “I don’t want THAT, it’s BAD.”

Right, I get that. I understand that you don’t consciously want car trouble, health problems, bad grades, bad breath, or whatever. Who would?

And that’s exactly why you need to ask, “Why did I attract THIS?” Anything that gets your attention for better or worse, ask the question.

Here’s a dire example. Many people know that my husband died several years ago and left me with two small children to raise and very little life insurance. Why did I attract THAT?

Why indeed. I may never know all the reasons, but I know there are some, probably many, and some of them I do understand. And with some of those larger things (and maybe the small things too), your spirit got together with other spirits to plan some of the important events you wanted in your life as a human.

This is why we sometimes have trouble understanding—we don’t communicate with our own spirits very well. I work to bridge that gap for my clients, helping them communicate with Spirit and understand why they’re here—even when they’re attracting things they don’t like.

Food for thought, eh?

I’m Manifesting Money for You

I’m happy to address a topic that has been prominent in my experience lately.  That is, how people feel about spending money on themselves.

I have had many clients who are eager to spend their money on my services, and then I have had one or two who say, “I can’t afford that right now.”  And you can say that–don’t get me wrong; I am not saying that you can’t say that, but you might not WANT to say that anymore.

It occurred to me that any time my client doesn’t want to spend money on my services, not only is she denying herself something for some reason (we’ll get to that in a minute), but also I am attracting someone who says, “Not right now” to me.  And that means that some small part of me is saying, “I’m not worthy of receiving that.”

Very often, when we say we can’t afford it, we are feeling a pinch in some way.  And I promise you, it always comes down to whether you feel worthy.  If you find yourself thinking something like, “There’s no way I can get any more money than I currently have.  My company is not giving any raises right now, and I’ll just be lucky not to get laid off.”  Or “my business is not going to get any more customers because the economy is bad right now.  I’ll be lucky not to have to close my doors”–then you need a THINK ADJUSTMENT.

You know how very powerful your thoughts are.  When you think, “There’s no way,” YOU’RE RIGHT!  But when you think, “I don’t know the way yet, but I know there is one,” YOU’RE ALSO RIGHT!

I just decided today to start attracting money to YOU on your behalf.  Yes, I can do that.  (You can too.)  I want to attract a lot of money to you, along with the feeling of worthiness, so that you can spend your money on all that you like and enjoy.

And I want to ask you to do your part.  Be open to all possibilities.  Allow the idea of solutions and methods existing that you cannot possibly imagine.

“There are more things in Heaven and Earth, Horatio, than are dreamt of in your philosophy.” 

That Shakespeare was a man with a clue.

So remind yourself that you are worthy (even if you don’t feel it) of love, joy, and abundance.  Imagine opening your mind and spirit to knew and different ideas.  Ask for the opportunity, desire, motivation, and/or idea to DO whatever will bring you what you love and enjoy.

And I will be over here, attracting money and abundance to you

Believe, believe, believe

I’ve been talking to you a lot about beliefs lately.  I’ve also been thinking about them myself.  A lot.  Can’t seem to stop.  But this is a good thing–it helps me to develop the answers that you need to your questions about… well, everything!

If you read the most recent post (about the OK Corral; see the previous post), it was about beliefs.  Essentially, it said that you live (or die) by what you believe.

I’ve been reading and listening to a lot of useful stuff about wealth and creating success and so forth, among them

The Attractor Factor by Dr. Joe Vitale

Money and the Law of Attraction by Esther and Jerry Hicks (and Abraham)

The Art of Success (audio series) by David Neagle

And all of these discuss beliefs.  Breaking down old beliefs, beliefs that will move you forward, etc.  But here’s what happened when I asked my own angels for a little favor.  I asked them to reveal to me the belief or beliefs that were holding me back from manifesting all that I love and enjoy.

You won’t believe their answer.

Are you ready?

“The only belief that holds you back is the belief that beliefs can hold you back.”

I laughed.  And then I got to thinking about it.  The teachers are not wrong when they say your limiting beliefs hold you back.  But if you didn’t believe them, they would be.

I don’t know about you, but I think I need to take a couple of Tylenol.  Or a stiff drink.

Now, think about it, and see what it means to you.  And until next time, y’all be good!