You may recall that I featured Dr. Robert Anthony in this blog post not long ago. Dr. Anthony recently sent an email that really got me thinking, and I thought it might be helpful to you too. See what you think:
“If you want your reality to be different from ‘what is’, then you might as well try to teach your cat to bark. You can try and try and in the end the cat will look up at you and say ‘Meow’. Wanting your reality to be different from what it is in this moment is just as stupid. You can spend the rest of your life trying to teach your cat to bark, but you will never succeed.
“And yet if you pay attention, you’ll notice that you think thoughts like this dozens of times every day. People should be… My neighbors should be… My husband should… My wife should… I should…
“These thoughts are ways of wanting reality to be different from the way it is. Here is my point – all the stress you feel in your life at this moment is caused by arguing with ‘what is’.
“People say to me, ‘But if I simply accept reality then I will become passive and nothing will change.’ I answer them with this question. ‘Which of these statements makes more sense? “I wish I hadn’t lost all that money.” or “What can I do now to create more income?”‘
“Accepting ‘what is’ doesn’t mean you condone or approve of the way things are, it just means you give up all the resistance and inner struggle by wishing it were different. No one wants to lose their money, have their children get sick or be in a car accident.
“However, when these things happen it can it be helpful not to mentally argue with them. We know better than to do that, yet we do it because it is a HABITUAL PATTERN.
“I am a lover of ‘what is’, not because it is the ‘right’ thing to do, but because it hurts when I argue with reality, and when I do, I ALWAYS lose.”
What do you think? How does it make you feel? Does this get your mind’s gears turning? It certainly gave me plenty to think about! Please share your comments below with me and other readers.
I just noticed something – a few weeks ago, I’m not sure when exactly, I stopped dreaming. And I don’t mean the dreams I have at night while I’m asleep. Those actually increased when I stopped dreaming during my waking time.
I’ve always had a pretty active fantasy life. And since I learned about the Law of Attraction a number of years ago, I have been even more intent on dreaming effectively.
What do I dream about? Oh, probably similar things to what you dream about: fun things to do, travel, a great marriage, happy friendships, and, of course, shopping. And maybe winning the “World’s Greatest Psychic” award.
But a few weeks ago, somewhere around Thanksgiving, I got distracted from dreaming and started being all–well, for lack of a better word, serious. There were many serious things I had to attend to, and I focused on them and not on my “silly fantasies.”
And do you know what happened? Nothing. I mean, nothing bad happened, but my life stopped moving forward. Things came to a standstill. Oh, sure, life went on, Thanksgiving was enjoyed, my daughter’s wedding was definitely wonderful, Christmas was a pretty good one, considering my daughter and her new husband were still on their honeymoon. But nothing new came along. In fact, things seemed to sort of–contract.
That’s it. Things contracted. They stopped expanding and growing and changing and morphing and creating. I stopped creating.
Fortunately, I discovered this problem after only a few weeks! I’ve started dreaming again, bigger than ever, and now the wheels are starting to turn forward again. I can feel it. And I can feel the world changing faster.
Have you stopped dreaming? How long has it been? Could that be the reason you’re not moving forward?
Next time you see that corny motivational poster that says, “Dare to dream”, do.
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The difference between something manifesting the hard way and something manifesting the easy way is the difference between desperation and relaxation.
Read that again. I’ll wait.
I’ve figured this one out: Even though you don’t need to worry about “the accursed hows”, if you don’t relax when you’re manifesting, those “hows” can turn out pretty rotten.
You know how all the gurus and LOA teachers, myself included, say not to worry about “how”? Just put your order for what you want in to the Universe and leave the “how” up to it. Right? I even posted a channeled message about this very topic recently. In that message, the angels/guides said to “let the Universe be your engineer, and you concentrate on being the designer.”
Which all makes perfect sense!
BUT… You know I always have a big but…!
I have noticed that, when I am desperate for something to be born or created or made manifest, I am likely to get it in a very difficult or unpleasant way.
Case in point: my move back to my hometown a couple of years ago. I had always wanted to move home, since I moved away to Austin in 1983, but always had some really compelling reason why I had to stay in Austin. Finally, in 2010, I was kicked out of Austin and sent packing by the Universe. Circumstances arose that forced me to move and move pretty fast. The move itself was utterly horrendous, and I don’t want to dwell on those details, but suffice it to say I came pretty close to a complete break-down. And the pain and suffering continued for months afterward.
Conclusion: I got what I wanted. I got to move home. But it was definitely “the hard way.”
Another example: My client was desperate to get out of her unhappy marriage. She prayed to get out of it somehow, some way, and she left the “how” up to the Universe. Well, one day, a gay woman walked into her life and they fell madly in love. But my client wasn’t actually gay; she was straight. There then ensued several years, yes, years, of on-and-off with the gay woman. They loved each other but both wanted the other to be something she just couldn’t be. And so that relationship ended, and badly. My client got what she wanted–out of the marriage. But it was unquestionably “the hard way.”
What’s the message here? When you are desperate for something to come through for you, you are likely to
a) wait a long time for it and
b) get it the hard way.
How do you get something “the easy way” instead? You still leave the “how” up to the Universe, but you have to relax about what you want.
Desperation brings “the hard way”.
Relaxation brings “the easy way”.
More to come on this. In the meantime, what do you think? What has your experience been with manifesting the easy way and the hard way? Please leave your comments below.
You may recall that I subscribe to emails from Dr. Robert Anthony, and I often find terrific insight in them. (See this post for another Dr. Anthony piece.) Today’s email was profound and very appropriate, so here it is for you to enjoy:
How often do you experience synchronicity? Webster’s says the
meaning of synchronicity is “to cause to operate with exact
coincidence in time or rate or to operate in unison.” At the higher
Levels of Awareness, you are more likely to experience people,
opportunities and all measure of material things flowing to you
almost as you think of them. These are synchronistic events.
Part of synchronicity is being in the right place at the right
time. Does that mean that you simply believe that you are in the
right place at the right time and then you are? To some degree,
yes, that’s true. But the opposite is also true. If you believe
that you are at the wrong place and time, you probably will
experience that as well! Since what you focus on expands, you can
create either experience as your reality. Which way do you want it
to be for you?
The more you believe in and affirm the unison of your highest and
best thoughts, feelings and desires the more you are likely to
experience life as a synchronistic adventure.
Be aware of skepticism as you read that last paragraph. There are
some people who look for everything as synchronicity and a sign of
positive meaning. “You like pizza and jazz, so do I! We must be
soul mates!” That is not the synchronicity I am talking about.
Although experiences of synchronicity can be small, like finding
just what you needed in the most unlikely place, they can also be
profound and sometimes overwhelming.
A man I know was concerned about his inability to contact his
father who was in Africa during a turbulent civil war. To distract
himself from his worry, the son went to a Grateful Dead concert
near Washington DC. In the middle of a huge crowd of vendors, the
son “accidentally” ran into someone who knew his father in Africa
and was able to reassure the son that his father was alive and well
in Africa! Now that is being in the right place at the right time!
Today, open your eyes, ears and heart to all the synchronistic
experiences that are happening around you that you may have never
noticed before or have taken for granted!
Today will bring you a new awareness, a lesson or a manifestation
that you are making progress – IF YOU LOOK FOR IT! No matter how
large or small, please record it in your Evidence Journal. It will
only take a few moments and will AUTOMATICALLY put you in the Flow.
You may know that I work a lot around the colors of energy. If you’ve had a reading from me, you know that I give you a “color snapshot” that tells you what color is primary in your life energy at the moment, and then I explain what that means. Similarly, I read auras (even though I don’t call them that) and I relate what I see in colors, shapes, and location around your physical body. This all helps me to interpret for you just what you need to know.
I understand and work with color so much that I decided to help you understand it better too. This is why I have written this series, What Your Favorite Color Says about You.
It’s as the title says; however, I realize that some people don’t have a favorite color, and some people have more than one. That’s okay. Here are some ways to determine what color or colors pertain most to you and your life:
If you have an actual favorite color, well, there you go.
If you have a secondary and tertiary favorite, those will pertain to you too.
Look in your closet: What color/s are most prominent in your wardrobe?
What color is your car? This is applicable even if you did not choose the color of your car, maybe even more so. I notice that people often wear the color/s that are present in their energy, and that their cars and other belongings tend to have them too.
If you really, really don’t have a favorite or un-favorite or a strong opinion, you’re a rainbow!
Each color has a “light” side and a “shadow” side, or positive and negative. (Note: This does NOT mean good and evil! Everything is useful and there is no devil! But that’s another story…) I’ll call them “bright” and “dark” because we describe colors that way. You may consider the “dark” version of the color to be your un-favorite, but either or both may apply to you. See how you identify with the following.
We’re going to start with red. If red is your favorite color or your un-favorite color (or otherwise present in your life; see above), here are the ideas and values you are concerned about:
Red overview: Passion, anger, support, inflammation
Bright red: You tend to be involved with and close to your family of origin, which can include grandparents and people who are like family from your childhood. You may enjoy memories of your growing-up years and remember those years fondly. You also know how to be independent, and you don’t suffer a lot of drama with your family. You stand on your own two feet and stand up for yourself. You support yourself spiritually and emotionally, and you take care of your most basic needs. You’re good at self-care.
Dark red: You may have unhealthy emotional attachments to or be estranged from your family of origin. You tend to have trouble taking care of yourself and wonder how you wound up like you did. You might blame your parent/s for things that you don’t like about your life. You may have a background of having been abused, and it’s hard for you to take good care of yourself, which leads to you depending on others and trying to please others so they will give you what you need. To go back toward “bright red”, remember that you came into this life to be happy, and that you and only you have created and can create or re-create your life. Of course, there is plenty of help for you to learn to do that, including books, websites, teachers, and, of course, me!
“If you want your reality to be different from ‘what is’, then you might as well try to teach your cat to bark. You can try and try and in the end the cat will look up at you and say ‘Meow’. Wanting your reality to be different from what it is in this moment is just as stupid. You can spend the rest of your life trying to teach your cat to bark, but you will never succeed.
