As my father-in-law lay dying a number of years ago, I went to visit him in the hospital. We had always been close, and were probably closer since my husband’s death several years before. I knew I was going to miss him terribly (and I was certainly right about that).
Cancer had dug its way into Dad’s brain, and he suffered some rages and fits, but I was fortunate to see him only at times when he was lucid. When I walked into his hospital room, I introduced myself to be sure he knew who I was. “Dad? Hi, it’s Suzi. Do you know who I am?”
“Yes,” he croaked, as there was a tumor pressing on the nerve to his vocal folds. “You’re Suzi. Of course, I know you.”
I sat with him a few minutes and then I asked, “Have you seen Tim [my late husband, and his late son]?”
I don’t know why I was surprised to hear him rasp, “Yes.” He went on to say, “He came and sat in that chair right there. He told me everything would be all right and I should just do what I want to do.”
Even though that was the answer I had hoped for–or something like it–I was stunned for a moment. I knew Tim was nearby at that moment, with Dad and me in the hospital room, waiting to help and support Dad’s transition.
My father-in-law has been gone 10 years this month. I dedicate this post to him, and I am grateful he has love and peace–and Tim–on the Other Side.
Just had a call from a long-time client, Jill. Well, actually, I haven’t read for her in years, but she had something important to tell me.
Back in 2006, I held a Home Event at my own house. I had about 25 people in attendance, and I turned my living room into an auditorium, where I regaled people with Spirit Communication for about three hours.
Jill was in the audience and her reading was very interesting. We had a lot of her late loved ones come through and there was information about her family names, and I remember a story about her grandfather stomping around on the roof on Christmas Eve, pretending there were reindeer up there. Another guest had a similar story, and it turned out they were actually related! So that was pretty cool.
But what Jill called to tell me, and what I didn’t remember, was this: I told her that either her maternal grandmother or maternal grandfather had died after hitting her/his head in the bathroom. Jill didn’t recognize this incident, and no one in her family could corroborate the story later. As usual, I told her at the time to remember this information because it would eventually be useful.
Fast-forward about six years… Jill called me to say that she was having dinner with some co-workers the night before, and her boss suddenly asked if any of them had ever been to a medium.
Jill said, “Yes, I have! I have a friend who is a medium.” And she proceeded to tell them the story of the Home Event at my house. She added, “The only thing that never fit was what she said about one of my mother’s parents hitting their head and dying in the bathroom.”
Jill’s boss turned white as a sheet. “Jill. Your mother died in the bathroom.”
Jill had never made the connection. Her mother died in 2010, four years after the reading I gave her, of a heart attack. She was found in the bathtub and had hit her head when she fell.
I was so glad that I didn’t recognize that scenario as a premonition and instead thought it to be a past event. But then it became so significant to Jill. And to me. I had the strong feeling that her mother had set the entire thing up so that Jill could understand that her mother’s death happened as it was meant to happen.
I love to find answers to some of life’s biggest questions. I’m always looking and listening for them, so it’s very satisfying to find them!
This time, it’s about what happens in your life, the experiences and relationships you attract and create as you go through your life.
It’s been said (quite often) that everything happens for a reason, and you may know that I always say, “Everything happens not for A reason, but for many reasons.”
And my corollary to that is, you may not ever know all the reasons for something, but they are there.
You may also know that I talk about there being messages contained in everything we experience–what happens in a day, what we overhear, thoughts in our heads, songs on the radio, and especially in synchronistic occurrences. Our lives are about getting these messages and putting them to good use, finding out what makes us happy (and what makes us unhappy) and how to bring more of those happy times to us.
Well, I got a little more insight into that the other day.
I was talking with a client whose husband passed away about 5 years ago. My own husband has been gone 17 years, and I always knew that there would be some way I would wind up helping someone because of that. (There are many other reasons and “good” things to come out of my husband’s death, but we’ll save that for another time.)
My client is a relationship coach and she developed a program to help her clients find love after loss. So she used her experience to help other people, right? And now, she is divorcing her second husband, which I also did. Because my experience came first, I am able to help her with hers.
Here’s another example. How many people have you known who survived cancer and claim that the experience changed their lives forever? (For better or worse.) How many of them helped someone else in a similar situation, or became a doctor or other healer because of it, invented something to help cancer patients, volunteered for Hospice, inspired others, and on and on?
The late comic Ron Shock produced a series of videos from his cancer diagnosis to the end of his life, talking about his situation and sharing stories from his life in comedy. (He was a very funny guy and I recommend looking up his “Cancer Chronicles” on You Tube.)
In one of his stories, Ron talked about his oncologist, whose wife got cancer during Ron’s treatment. What are the odds? That someone in a cancer doctor’s own family would get cancer? Did that doctor lose someone he loved to cancer when he was growing up? Was his father (or mother) a doctor? Did he just feel the calling?
Do you see where I’m going with this? Your life is all about you first. Become self-aware, and you will be other-aware. Help yourself and you can help others. Get the message for yourself, then help someone else in need of getting that same message.
Happy Helping!
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[This is an excerpt from one of my books, Dead On: Spirited Stories from a Medium’s Diary.It is still available here in its original edition, and I am working on the second.]
During my pre-reading meditation, I saw a high-school boy in a football uniform, in a photo like the ones that all boys in sports take, posed on one knee with his helmet nearby.
Then I saw images of myself in front of an audience, then on the stage in the play “Oklahoma!” which I was in my senior year in high school. One of the songs from “Oklahoma!” got stuck in my head. It was “Many a New Day Will Dawn before I Do,” not one of the songs I usually sing from the show. In it, a girl sings about having been jilted, saying it doesn’t bother her and that another boy will come along soon.
As soon as Andrew, arrived, I asked him if there was someone who played football who had died. This was one of my many lessons about putting my interpretations on the images I see. As I learned, the picture I saw was either Andrew or his brother, who played football in high school. Both were alive and well, so I made a mental note: a picture is not necessarily the spirit! As it turned out, his grandpa was showing me something about Andrew’s life, that he had played football.
I told Andrew about my “Oklahoma!” references and asked if anyone had been on stage or in that play. Or was there someone in Oklahoma or from Oklahoma? What didOklahoma mean? Andrew said, “Well, I had a potential client in Oklahoma. The deal just fell through.”
Aha! I asked him, “Are you telling yourself that it’s okay, it doesn’t bother you, and another better deal will come along?” Of course, he was.
Another mental note—in bold italics—to tell the client exactly what I see and hear without running it through my filters first.
The person giving me the images was Andrew’s grandfather. He was a pleasant and friendly man, but he kept interjecting into my chakra analysis. The root chakra, rather than being a variation on a sphere (the way I see them), looked like an ocean wave, an image from the grandpa telling us about the family vacations he and Andrew took at the beach. The navel chakra looked like a little girl pulling up her dress in front. This baffled me—and made me giggle—until Andrew said that, when he was very little, his neighbors dressed him up in a dress. Grandpa thought that was pretty darned funny.
I wondered aloud if I should stop the chakra reading, if Grandpa wanted the time, but he quieted down and let me finish that part of the reading. Later, we had some more images of Andrew’s childhood. This was one of the few readings in which I didn’t see the spirit, but only had images and feelings from him. He was a genuinely kind and funny person and he let that come through clearly.
You may know that I work a lot around the colors of energy. If you’ve had a reading from me, you know that I give you a “color snapshot” that tells you what color is primary in your life energy at the moment, and then I explain what that means. Similarly, I read auras (even though I don’t call them that) and I relate what I see in colors, shapes, and location around your physical body. This all helps me to interpret for you just what you need to know.
I understand and work with color so much that I decided to help you understand it better too. This is why I have written this series, What Your Favorite Color Says about You.
It’s as the title says; however, I realize that some people don’t have a favorite color, and some people have more than one. That’s okay. Here are some ways to determine what color or colors pertain most to you and your life:
If you have an actual favorite color, well, there you go.
If you have a secondary and tertiary favorite, those will pertain to you too.
Look in your closet: What color/s are most prominent in your wardrobe?
What color is your car? This is applicable even if you did not choose the color of your car, maybe even more so. I notice that people often wear the color/s that are present in their energy, and that their cars and other belongings tend to have them too.
If you really, really don’t have a favorite or un-favorite or a strong opinion, you’re a rainbow!
Each color has a “light” side and a “shadow” side, or positive and negative. (Note: This does NOT mean good and evil! Everything is useful and there is no devil! But that’s another story…) I’ll call them “bright” and “dark” because we describe colors that way. You may consider the “dark” version of the color to be your un-favorite, but either or both may apply to you. See how you identify with the following.
We’re going to start with red. If red is your favorite color or your un-favorite color (or otherwise present in your life; see above), here are the ideas and values you are concerned about:
Red overview: Passion, anger, support, inflammation
Bright red: You tend to be involved with and close to your family of origin, which can include grandparents and people who are like family from your childhood. You may enjoy memories of your growing-up years and remember those years fondly. You also know how to be independent, and you don’t suffer a lot of drama with your family. You stand on your own two feet and stand up for yourself. You support yourself spiritually and emotionally, and you take care of your most basic needs. You’re good at self-care.
Dark red: You may have unhealthy emotional attachments to or be estranged from your family of origin. You tend to have trouble taking care of yourself and wonder how you wound up like you did. You might blame your parent/s for things that you don’t like about your life. You may have a background of having been abused, and it’s hard for you to take good care of yourself, which leads to you depending on others and trying to please others so they will give you what you need. To go back toward “bright red”, remember that you came into this life to be happy, and that you and only you have created and can create or re-create your life. Of course, there is plenty of help for you to learn to do that, including books, websites, teachers, and, of course, me!
