affirmA new client asked me recently how to do affirmations and make them count.  I often prescribe affirmations for my clients, but this question prompted me to write out my prescription for everyone’s benefit.

First, what’s an affirmation and why would you want to do one?  Affirmations are just a way to get an idea to sink into your subconscious.  It’s not just we woo-woo folks who use them either–therapists suggest them, as well.  Way back when I was a kid, I remember my parents had taped bits of paper bearing affirmations to their bathroom mirror.  That way, they would see the affirmations at least once or twice every day.  I think they read about affirmations in a self-help book of the day.  (1970’s…?)

You might want to use affirmations to bring something new into your life.  For example, if you want a new car, affirming that you already have it will, according to the Law of Attraction, bring that new car into your experience.  Or you may want to change your own attitudes, such as becoming less worried and happier, becoming less bossy or more assertive, feeling more confident in your appearance or skills.

I used not to like the idea of using affirmations for myself, even though I was often guided to suggest them to my clients.  One day, though, I was throwing angel cards for myself, and the “Morning Affirmations” card came up.  “Ugh,” I thought, “affirmations are like doing a ritual and I don’t like to do rituals.”  And then an angel’s voice came to me clearly and gently:  “Affirmations are about affirming, not about ritual.”  And then I got it!  And I’ve been using affirmations ever since.

If you want to give affirmations a try, here are my tips for using them for your life:

  1. Present:  State your desire in the present tense, as if it already is.  “My new car is amazing!”  Or “I am happily married.”
  2. Positive:  For example, “I feel confident every day”, not “I will not worry today.”  The Universe and your own subconscious do not recognize “nots” and “won’ts” and so forth.  So “I will not worry today” becomes “I will worry today.”
  3. Write it down:  Keep an affirmation journal and/or write it on a sticky note to put on your bathroom mirror.  You can also write your favorite affirmation/s in other places so you see them more often throughout the day.
  4. Aloud:  State your affirmation aloud any time you think of it or see it.  This is more effective than just saying it in your head.
  5. Frequent:  Once daily is the minimum for stating an affirmation, but in this case, more is better.
  6. Sing:  I find that singing my affirmation along to a familiar tune–or to whatever is on the radio–can be more effective.
  7. Share:  Tell a friend about your affirmation.  Then he or she will be thinking about it too–adding their energy to yours can be very powerful!

Good luck with your affirmations!  And by all means, share your affirmation stories with me and other readers–post a comment below.